Find Your Ideal Partner

When looking for our ideal partner, we typically look for someone who most compliments our personality. Most people start by searching for someone with similar likes, dislikes and interests – which obviously is ideal for forging common bonds in a relationship. But in the most vital area – our personality – we need our complementary (or opposite) traits in order to create the most balanced connection. The chart below will help you identify your key personality traits as well as those of your ideal partner.

Opposites Attract…

Did you know that 50% of the population depends primarily on their emotions or feelings (‘Feelers’) and 50% depends more on their logic or thoughts (“Thinkers”)? Said another way, 50% rely on their gut instinct and 50% rely on what is most logical when making important decisions. Ideal partnerships have a delicate balance of each that complement each other’s strengths and weaknesses.

Typically a relationship has one primary ‘Feeler’ and one primary ‘Thinker’. You are attracted to your opposite. For instance, if you are a 60% Feeler, ordinarily you will attract, and be attracted to, a 60% Thinker.

Bear in mind that you are never a 100% Feeler or 100% Thinker. As a 60% Feeler, for instance, you also be a 40% Thinker.

The following chart of key traits for the ‘Feeler’ and the ‘Thinker’. The chart begins with Behavioral Traits, then Relationship Traits, then Some Key Things to Know about Thinkers and Feelers in a Relationship.

To determine if you are primarily a Thinker of a Feeler, read the left and right descriptions for each trait and place an ‘X’ in the box to the left of the trait that is most like you, then move on to the next trait. Try to go with your first feeling/thought, rather than over-contemplating your answer. When checking out your traits, you will notice that you have more ‘X’s on one side, but you will likely have a number of ‘X’s on the other side. The side with more ‘X’s is your dominant personality. Your ideal partner will have more ‘X’s on the opposite side as you.

Dr. John Kappas discovered that people fall into one of these categories. Strangely, he termed a ‘Feeler’ as a Physical, and a ‘Thinker’ as an Emotional!

Behavioral Traits



Relationship Traits


Some Key Things to Know about Thinkers and Feelers in a Relationship

Note: These are only a few of the key things to know about Feelers and Thinkers. Every relationship is unique. Even though you may be a Feeler or a Thinker, you may actually recognize yourself as having a few of the opposite traits, because no one is 100% Feeler or Thinker.




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